Why Are The Commands To Submit and Love in Marriage Gender Specific?
As I was teaching yesterday, someone asked me this question.
I gave an answer and the class continued.
I woke up this morning and the Holy Spirit in His usual way continued the conversation.
Here’s what I just learned. I’m so excited, I can’t sit still and I can’t wait to share.
When God created man, He gave both man and woman the mandate to dominate every other thing that He had created except each other-Genesis 1:26-28 shows this clearly.
However, at the fall of man in Genesis 3, things got altered a little bit.
God, in dishing out consequences for their actions said to the woman: ‘In pain will you bring forth children; your desire will be for your husband and He will rule over you.
This changed the dynamics of the marriage relationship.
The woman would always love her husband and he started to ‘rule’ her.
However, the original DNA of the woman has not been completely overriden. She somehow knows she was not created to be dominated, so she kicks back against the husbands ‘rulership’.
This rulership is fine by the man anyway because it works very nicely into the dominion mandate he was given at creation.
The rulership & Kickback mechanism is why God inspired Apostle Paul to make gender specific instructions for Christian marriages.
Submission is difficult for a woman who is kicking back from being ruled.
A man focused on ruling will not find it easy to love.
We need to be reminded about God’s original plan.
Mutual submission to each other that plays out in reverence/ submission on the part of the wife and unconditional love on the part of the husband!
I just learnt a serious lesson.
Who’s With Me?