Lonely? There’s Help!

Have you ever being so lonely that nothing made a difference? You could be in a crowd, be with people and the loneliness doesn’t lift?

If you have, after a while, you learnt to mask it and smile like everything is fine, but you know you’re longing for a companionship that no one around you-sometimes not even your spouse can give you.

Anybody feel me?

If you’ve being there, welcome to the club.

If you’re like me, over time, you’ve tried to cure that loneliness with anything and everything, name it, you’ve tried it.

For some it’s alcohol, some, work, some sex and for some work, some shopping.-anything. And it seems to work for a time and then you’re back to where you started.

What’s the permanent solution?, you may be asking.

Read with me: God sets the lonely in families – Psalm 68:6

Sounds cliche doesn’t it? But it’s true. The lasting answer to that loneliness is found in God. Not in a new job, boyfriend, husband, money, clothes or anything else.

Ask around, if people are honest, they will tell you that despite having all these things, they are still lonely.

So what to do?

Join me in taking that loneliness to God today instead of looking for quick fixes.

Who’s with me?

Tobiloba

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Your Friends: Blessings or Curses

I was in church on Sunday and I got a refresher course on something God had taught me over two years ago. I figure it’s time to share. Read with me:

Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor seats in the seat of the scornful- Psalm 1:1 (NKJV)

The first time God revealed this verse to me, I learnt three things which I will share shortly. Today I realized an additional truth which I will also share. Let’s go,

Your friends will either bring you blessings or curses; you can sit on the fence. That’s why the first few words of the verse read ‘Blessed is the man…’

Therefore, there are certain blessings attached to keeping the right kind of friends. So let’s get some friendships evaluation going.

Who do you take advice from? Are they ‘wicked’ people? Before you answer, think again. As long as the person does not know Christ as their personal Lord and Saviour and live for Him, they are, in God’s books, ‘Wicked.’ So check your advisers, are they people who advice you according to the word or according to the world?

Are most of your friends sinners? Before you go on about how nobody is perfect, don’t forget that ‘He who is born of God does not continue to sin’- I John 3:8. Therefore if your friends are comfortable to sin and do it around you, check it, you’re in the company of sinners.

And lastly, what do you talk about? What kind of discussions do you have with your friends? Do you discussion encourage or discourage? Do your words build up or tear down? Do you constantly hang around those who have made mocking and ridiculing others a way of life and call it fun?

If all or any of these categories of people constitute your friends list, you’re cutting yourself off from the blessing of God attached to the right association.

This might be a totally unrelated fact but I noticed a progression in the actions in that verse. You see at the beginning of friendships, you walk together, as conversations deepen; friends have been known to stand in one spot and just keep talking. And then the sweeter it gets; you usually pull up chairs, seat down and get comfortable.

You see that’s the progression of sin. First you walk into sin. Then you stand in it. Then you sit and get comfortable in it and completely cut yourself off from God.
I’m sure you’ve heard this saying: ‘Do not be deceived, evil communication corrupts good manners’.
If you had parents like mine, you must have heard it at least once a week in childhood. Well, news flash, its scripture. Check out 1 Corinthians 15:33
Child of God, Check your associations and friendships today, Are they bringing you blessings or curses?
I choose to cultivate friendships of blessings today.
Who’s with me?
Tobiloba

WHAT KIND OF WISDOM RUNS YOUR LIFE?

Welcome to October everyone. I don’t why I have been waiting till blog posts are overdue before I write them these days. Like a friend would tell me, ‘I need Jesus’. I agree. I do. Who doesn’t?

Okay to my long overdue message for today. Today we’re talking about wisdom.

In you’ve been in church a while or even at all, you’ve probably heard the following scriptures used by both Christians and sometimes non Christians alike.

‘…Wisdom is profitable to direct- Ecclesiastes 10:10

‘The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom’- Proverbs 9:10

These are very popular scriptures right? What most people don’t know is that the whole book of Proverbs in the bible is primarily dedicated to teach Wisdom.

Now, this brings me to the question, what is wisdom? If you’ve been in church for a while, you’ve probably heard it said that:

‘Wisdom is the correct application of knowledge’.
Thinking about this definition, it presupposes that there is a way to apply knowledge that would not be wisdom.

At least not the wisdom of God.

In recent times, after I had seen counsel given and received counsel being labeled as ‘Wisdom’, and I was quite confused, God in His usual gentle way points me to the word.

Today’s passage is a long read so I will ask you to please read in as many different translations as you can find.
Follow me to James 3: 13-17. Read with me:

Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life and the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbour bitter envy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such wisdom does not come down from heaven, but is earthly, unspiritual, and demonic. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.

But the wisdom that is from God is first of all pure, peace loving considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good, fruit, impartial and sincere’ (NIV)

Today’s challenge is simple, Look at the quality of your life and the advice you give, weigh it by the standards above.

Dear Christian,
Does your life and advice encourage:
Selfishness?

Does it encourage pride or boasting?

Does it twist the truth to make it sound right?

Does it encourage being mean to others?

Honestly evaluate, If it does, It is earthly wisdom, Devilish and conniving. Pure and simple. I cannot say it more nicely than that.

Conversely, if you still can’t get an accurate reading using the questions above, try this list. Does your advice encourage:

Getting along with others

Seeking peace

Being gentle at ALL times

Being willing to yield to others

Being full of mercy and good deeds

Sincerity ALL the time and,

Lack of favoritism?

If the second list sounds most like you, Congratulations! You’re on your way to Godly Wisdom.

Remember, Do you want to… build a reputation for wisdom, Live well, Live wisely, Live humbly. It is the way you live… that counts –James 3:13 (MSG)

Lastly, these same guidelines apply to the pieces of advice you receive. Weigh them on this balance to see if they are from God or the devil before you act on them.

Which kind of wisdom runs your life?

I choose to run by the wisdom of God.

Who’s with me?
Tobiloba.