For those that followed my series on submission God’s way, I promised a post for the men as well.

Well, this is me keeping that promise, with the first part in the series which I pray will be a lot shorter than the previous one.

I’ll be using the same scripture I used previously, so follow me as we go back to Ephesians.

It reads ‘Husbands, love your wives’ but it does not stop there. It tells them how to do it.

‘As Christ loved the Church and gave himself for her.’[1]

Christ’s love is sacrificial, unconditional and is not based on performance, looks or expectations.

Sorry to burst your bubble husbands, but the fact that your wife is not looking her best, has hurt you so many times, does not  love you in return, does not cook your favorite meal or does not satisfy your sexual desires as often as  you would like is no basis to stop loving your wife.

You example is Christ, not the expectations of the media or popular public opinion

Note: This above admonition is for husbands and not boyfriends/ fiancé’s. Single guys in relationships, your checklist is in 1 Corinthians 13

Husbands’, loving your wives also includes ‘covering’ her with the word. Speak the word over your wives daily. Just as Christ builds His church, you have a responsibility to ‘build’ your wife.

She is your cultivation. Speak the word over her and watch her become what you call her.

I’ll close this post with the Message bible’s translation of the Scripture we just looked at. I just love the way it says it.

‘Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting.

 Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness.

 And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage.’[2]

So husbands, how are we doing on keeping up with the above so far?

Note:No more of I’m not Jesus-He already gave you a template and showed you how to do it.



[1] Ephesians 5:25 (NKJV)

[2] Ephesians 5: 25-38 (MSG)



  1. Just like submission God’s way, loving God’s way requires Christ. Unconditional love in this day of “what you are not doing, some other woman will” will take the grace of God. Nice one Tobilola

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