Celebrating Godly Fatherhood

I saw the movie ‘courageous’ for a second time this last Tuesday and it struck me afresh the huge impact that fathers have on their children-especially their daughters.

A lot of people think the men shape the boys and the women shape the girls, but I beg to disagree. The value a woman is going to place on herself throughout life is going to first be determined by the value she thinks her father places on her.

At this point I would be doing the entire world a great disservice If I do not pause to celebrate the first man in my life, the man who truly loves me, sets the standard that subsequent men who want a place in my life have to meet ( he set it VERY high)LOL!

He taught me to study the bible for myself. Showed me what it means to serve God, shows me that real men have emotions and show them and that a man without God is nothing.

 He is ever ready to gist with me about anything, no matter how mundane. My partner in crime in my teenage years when the boys came flocking- I can never forget the nights of dissecting lyrics and gifts from various guys. We had good laughs and he steered me in the right direction.

He allows me to make my own choices and has never stifled my creativity. He believes in me a lot more than I believe in myself. His faith has helped mine in more ways than one and has kept me from giving up more times than I can count.

He’s stood by me every time I’ve failed and fallen flat on my face. He’s wiped my tears and listened to my fears through every heartache.

Daddy’s hugs seem to fix everything from a broken heart to an annoying boss.

He taught me it is okay to challenge status quo and that you don’t have to conform to societal expectations.

He gives wings to my dreams and enables me to fly

Wow! I have to stop before I write an epistle. I’ll save the epistle for when you turn 70!

Yes where was I? The influence of fathers on their daughters’ abi?

Need I say more?

Just look how I turned out!- The power of an Awesome God and an amazing earthly father who allowed himself to be used to model Christ even in his imperfections.

Thank you Daddy for being amazing. I Love you!

Celebrate my truly amazing dad with me!

 P.S : If its not obvious already, I’m a self confessed daddy’s girl

Tobiloba

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SOUL MATES? NO THANKS!

I just can’t live without him, he’s my soul mate.  I can’t wait till I meet my soul mate.  Today is the happiest day of my life; I just married my soul mate.

We’ve all heard these clichés and probably used them as well. But as a Christian, Should I be focused on meeting or finding a soul mate?

It’s been said that a man comprises of a spirit, a soul and a body. Your spirit is the place where God dwells in every man- (The Holy Spirit dwells here too if you are born again). Your soul is where your will, emotions, and intellect dwell. Your body is the casing that houses both your spirit and your soul.

It therefore follows that if your soul is the guiding factor of your life, your life will be guided by your emotions, your will and your intellect.

What is wrong with that? You may be asking. My problem with that is that ‘Those that are led by the SPIRIT of God are the sons of God’ (Romans 8:16), not those that are led by their souls.

The time has come for me as a believer to stop being led by my soul (mind, emotions and intellect) and become led by my spirit which is in fact the spirit of Christ that dwells in me.

I should not do things because they feel right, seems right or makes logical sense but because it is right as dictated by the spirit of God that dwells in me.

As I journey through life, I will need partners, some for a reason, some for a season and some for life.

If my partners are soul mates, then the foundation is wrong. If the foundation of a relationship is emotion, will or intellect, then the foundation is faulty. No wonder so many ‘soul mate’ friendships and marriages are in shambles today.

Do I need a soul mate? I don’t think so. I’ll pray for and choose a ‘spirit’ mate instead.

Tobiloba

SUBMISSION GOD’S WAY 5- THE FINAL PIECE

This study will be incomplete if I do touch on the admonition of Peter[1].I’ll be constantly substituting adaptation with submission in this post as well so don’t get confused, I’m still on topic.

He started his admonition in about the same way as Paul but brings another interesting angle into our ‘adaptation’ as women.

Your husband does not have to be a believer for you to submit to him! The minute you married him, you responsibility to submit to him began. The question of him deserving it or not is irrelevant.

Note: The notion of I’ll submit to him when he loves me is not only unscriptural, It is wrong! Get it out of your head before you put yourself in danger of hell.!

Peter goes on to point out that ‘submission’ irrespective of the man could be the tool by which the man comes to know Christ. Ladies, don’t be a stumbling block to a man’s salvation just by refusing to submit to him because you’re the better Christian and he’s an ‘unbeliever.’

Note: The notion of ‘I cannot submit to him because he’s an unbeliever and I’m a believer is also unscriptural! It’s not being spiritual, its being proud!

Let the God you profess to know be evident in the way you relate to your husband in submission. The fact that he made a few wrong turns and choices does not in any way change the fact that ‘adaptation’ is still your responsibility.

And you know what ladies; you do not necessarily have to agree with the course of action to adapt. It is an attitude of the heart and mind.

A case in point in this passage is Sarah. Never in her story did we read that she stopped adapting to Abraham even when he lied about their relationship and consequently suggested adultery to save his neck.

Note: I’m not supporting adultery in the name of submission! I know you get the point though; I just thought to point that out.

Her submission to her husband was evident in the way she addressed her husband. How do you show your submission to your husband on a daily basis? Like we said earlier, what speaks submission differs from man to man-Learn your man and get cracking.

This brings my study on Submission God’s way to an end- six months after I started it. Thanks so much for hanging with me. I hope you’ve learnt something that will be useful to you.

I know I’ll be back to these posts for inspiration real soon!


[1] 1 Peter 3:1-6