I cannot believe you cheated on me! With someone I know too? That it, we’re done! I’m getting a divorce. I cannot stand the sight of your cheating face around me anymore. He/ She says storming out of the room.

A few minutes later he/she’s narrating the story in fury to a friend who says ‘you can’t get divorced remember? You’re a Christian. Well, the bible does say I can divorce an unfaithful husband/wife and it will not be a sin[1], so I’m taking that option. It’s better than living with someone who cheated on me.

But is divorce really the answer for unfaithfulness in Christian marriages? The bible tells us that the relationship between a man and his wife is likened to the relationship between Christ and the Church.[2]

We are the church of Christ-his bride. If Christ took the option of divorce every single time that we were unfaithful to Him, would any of us be able to stand? Check your life! In the last 24 hours, if you’re like me, I’m sure you can find more than one instance of unfaithfulness to Christ to point to. But does Christ turn his back (divorce) me every time I commit an indiscretion and break His heart, disrespect His body and scorn His sacrifice?

No! He forgives me and keeps forgiving me every time I acknowledge my sin and go to Him for help. What’s more, he helps me to truly repent of my sin by covering my sin with His Grace (undeserved favour).

Could we take a cue from Christ and bring an extension of the forgiveness and grace we have received from Christ into our marriages even in the face of infidelity?

Is divorce really the answer?

I don’t think it is!

[1] Mark 10, Matthew 19

[2] Ephesians 5:21-33